Here's the Catch the Dream Express Ezine!

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Volume 3:2009

1. A Personal Note from Maria Mar

2. Female Secrets in the Law of Attraction Audios

3. What you are saying

4. Feature Article: Toxic Relationships: Love them, but Leave them!

5. Today's Law of Attraction Daily Tip

6. Recent blog entries

7. Ask the Dream Alchemist

8. Featured Product

9. Links and resources

Hi beautiful sisters,

I recently wrote about toxic relationships in Facebook and received comments, and emails for seven consecutive days. (You can become my FB friend by visiting http://www.facebook.com/DreamAlchemist.) What's going on? In today's article, I share with you some basic aspects of toxic relationships and why so many of us are going through a cleansing of toxic relationships right now.

That is why I am developing the Toxic Relationships: Love Them, but LEAVE Them Self-help Kit for those who need support in releasing toxic friends, clients or environments.

Thank you so much for all the beautiful wishes you sent for the 20th anniversary of the creative partnership that Corazon Tierra and I have cultivated. It was a very joyful day. And thanks for the outpouring of Birthday wishes you sent me and the streams of heart-warming feedback you have all been sending. My heart is full of you!

This is my blessing for you today:

May you have the vision to follow your dreams. May you have the faith to follow your vision. May you have the love to feed your faith. May you have the wisdom to grow in love.

Light and Love,

Maria Mar

The Dream Alchemist

Maria Mar was featured this month in the following media:

Facebook Birthday Celebration

I took a break in June to celebrate my birthday. (That's why there was no June newsletter. I know you understand... girls need to have fun once in a while!) I shared my birthday plans in Facebook, and got an amazing outpour of love. The birthday wishes streamed for about two days.

For sometime now I have been writing daily inspirational updates in Facebook. I find happiness in inspiring others, so I just did it every morning. A few people always respond. Sometimes a lot of people respond and conversations get very interesting. Click here to see a virtual tour of some of the Facebook conversations threads narrated by me.

But I never imagined that so many of you were following my updates. When I opened Facebook and all this love and gratitude flew towards me and showered me, I was ecstatic!

 Thank you so much for filling my heart with your love!

 I am  taking a break from activities during July to September

to focus on the writing and publishing of my upcoming books .

Expect surprises in the fall!

Female Secrets in the Law of Attraction

This series of audio meditations takes you deep into a relaxed state and guides you through a visualization, breath and intent process that helps you to:

Maria created these guided meditations to help you use the Female Secrets in the Law of Attraction. Series No. 1 offers 3 audios and 3 ebooks that guide you through the process of magnetizing and gestating your dream and nurturing it to be birthed. The series includes three powerful journeys of manifestation.

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"Dear María,
"Sending you my reflections of why we need positive people such as yourself in our lives. There are people who like the light of the lighthouse, help through storms, warn you of reefs. This is the light of the people who have been through what you have been through, who can support you in finding the solution - you are not a lone boat! They have sailed, some for longer than you, and know about the waves. They know about low tides and high tides. They help you to steer a steady course. They add to your strength until the high wave comes to carry you along your chosen course. You understand that the low tide does not signify failure - it is the prelude to the forthcoming high tide, which abundantly flows your way. Thank you for sharing your light Maria! My best wishes!"

Dagmara Elminowska
London
Innovative online programs
for children's educational empowerment
*Dagmara is my Facebook friend.
 

 
TODAY'S TIP

Three steps to address toxic relationships

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Toxic Relationships

Love them, but LEAVE them!

When someone you love is toxic to you, you may need to release this person as an act of love for yourself and for him or her.

By toxic, I do not mean that they are finding it difficult to deal with your change. That’s normal. I don’t mean that they “make you” feel this or that way. No one “makes” you feel. That is giving your power away. If this is the case, assume the responsibility for your feelings, attitudes and responses.

What I mean by toxic is that they are not willing to respect your limits. Toxic to you are friends who repeatedly dishonor or betray you. Toxic are friends who play mind games. Toxic are people who are unwilling or unable to see how their acts affect others, how they are affecting you. Toxic people are blamers. They always have an excuse and a finger pointing somewhere else. There is no way that you can come to terms with people like that. You will be trying forever. Toxic are those who take, but do not receive. Toxic are those who take, but do not give.

Toxic people take you for granted. Their actions (and sometimes even their words) consistently reveal that they do not value you. They put you down with words or actions. They make you invisible. They refuse to name the beauty and love you bring into their lives.

Toxic friends trample on your faith and speak only cynical words that take away all the magic and goodness in life.

Toxic friends may be charmers, but they cannot commit to love, to you or to their own words. These toxic friends do not know what they want. They keep asking for your help, only to drop the entire project the minute you committed your contacts or time to their support. You end up exhausted and your reputation is damaged with these toxic friends.

Toxic are people who begin a full-fledge war against your happiness, who do everything they can to bring you back to a place of suffering, so that you stay with them in their misery.

Toxic clients are those who keep asking for more and take everything, but do not RECEIVE it. Because they are not allowing the love in what you give to touch them, they do not FEEL the value of it. As a result, they always want more and nothing is enough. They do not value the gifts because in their emotional world, they have not let the gift in.

They do not trust or value your expertise. Because they do not value themselves, they distrust the value of anyone associated with them. Once they hire you, they do not value you. They will ask for others’ opinions and act on those opinions, even if these other people are not experts. They will not follow your counsel and when their actions lead them to failure, they will fail to see that it was not your counsel, but their stupidity that lead them to that end.

Toxic clients haggle about the price of your service. They pay late and come up with excuses. They do not do their work and then complain that your service is not working. They give you the materials late and procrastinate, so that you cannot fulfill your contract with them. Then they come back after the contract date is over and want you to be their time slave and keep on working for them.

It is hard to understand how saying goodbye can be an act of love. But if your love for another is betraying your love for yourself, then it will soon become poison, not love. The only loving thing to do is leave.

Most of us hold on to toxic love because we are afraid to be alone. We are afraid to be rejected. We are afraid to go out into a world full of strangers. Will we make new friends? Will they love us? So we stay in toxic relationships.

The other reason why some of us drag these toxic relationships for years is because we do not wan to be judgmental. We are all one, and we believe that if we keep giving love to these people, the relationship will improve. And it does. For a while. Until the toxic area is somehow triggered in the person (or the relationship) and the poison is once again released. We need to practice Tough Compassion in relationships that are consistently toxic to us. We also need to practice self-compassion.

If you are facing such a relationship now, use the descriptions in this article to evaluate it. Is this friend or client toxic? Is your love or loyalty for this person running against your loyalty and love for yourself?

If the answer is yes, love them, but leave them.

No one deserves that you betray your soul, your happiness and your potential. No one deserves that you become a ghost just for them. That option is not love. It is not love for them. And it is certainly not love for yourself.

Light and love,

Maria Mar

The Dream Alchemist

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Copyright Maria Mar(c) 2009.

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The Toxic Relationships

Love them, but LEAVE Them

Self-help Kit

Whether it's a love, friendship or business relationship, a toxic relationship is exactly that: toxic. It is poisonous. Damaging. Intoxicating. Debilitating... and potentially lethal. Leave it now. You deserve better.

Here is the advise of PBS-TV featured and internationally known spiritual teacher Maria Mar:

Love them, but LEAVE them.

To help you find out the who, what, how, when and other urgently needed information, Maria Mar has written this self-help kit.

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Resources to live healthily, peacefully and joyfully

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Maria Mar is a new renaissance woman who has freed her vast creative power and helps other women to free theirs. She is a published author, visual artist and life coach. She is a poet and inspirational speaker. She is also an internationally known shaman and spiritual teacher. As a dance-theatre performer, Maria has been featured in PBS, Channel 13 for her innovative work. She has also been featured in BronxNet television and numerous radio stations such as WBAI, WKCR (Columbia University Station), WADO (Spanish Radio), Brooklyn College Radio Station and La Nueva Onda 1190, among others.

Maria has brandished creativity and the arts as tools for life transformation and specializes in personal growth through the arts and freeing the creative process. She has now launched her Female Secrets in the Law of Attraction, contained in products, articles and events.

Maria has published half a dozen books, among them the Dream Kit (inspirational novel and workbook) and is the CEO of ShamansDance Publishing and Productions. Maria is available for engaging speaking presentations in which she uses dance-theatre and poetry as ceremonies of empowerment and to communicate the principles of female leadership. Read full biography.